I probably should have put the word ‘rimming’ in the title, but I did wonder if that would attract even more spam than usual. Still, I am dedicated to locating articles and essays of use to the writer of erotica as well as romance, so I’m prepared to filter the more awful spam comments if my links are of service to writers.
Because I write erotica, and am interested in issues of sexual health (I try to write responsibly) occasionally I find online resources about sexual practices that may be deemed ‘kinky’ or extreme. Some of those practices are in fact quite common. Not universal, of course, but common, and not just among aficionados of bondage or, in the case of rimming, queer partnerships. Rimming is popular with a lot of people, straight and queer: it’s such an intimate act, and of course the associated taboo has its own appeal for some, along with the appeal of the simple physical response of all those sensitive nerve endings.
US journalist Michael Castleman wrote about the practice for Psychology Today in a very straightforward, non-judgemental fashion in his article Rimming: The Curious Couple’s Guide to Oral-Anal Play. It’s a sensible resource for any writer wanting to include any rimming-related scenes in their erotic fiction, especially as it deals with both the motivations for taking part and the hygiene concerns some people have.
The site has other great resources about sexual practices and sexual health which are useful to writers. (Well, to couples too, I suppose!)
As a ‘bonus’ (and I’m not sure you can call it that) a friend who understands my appreciation of the outre sent me this link for Edible Anus Chocolate. Maybe it’s a useful way to practise? I can’t help but think it will raise one’s expectations of the experience. I’m fairly certain that rimming is not normally chocolate flavoured…
Meanwhile, back in August 2013, The Age‘s Sarah Berry talked about research showing that orgasms were better for the brain than, say, doing crosswords. I don’t know how exact the science was, or if the parameters for the study hold up to scientific scrutiny, but it’s probably more scientific than some of the claims made in the comments.
Please note that the audio on the article repeatedly uses the term ‘vaginal stimulation’. Whether you want to take that as a warning or an incentive is entirely up to you, dear reader.
- I conduct a two hour workshop on writing about Sex and Intimacy. If you’d like to book me for that, visit my Speaking page for details.
- I will be delivering that workshop at Richmond Library (Melbourne) on Sunday 2 February 2014. Keep track of booking details on my Mortal Words blog.
- In the meantime, read my erotic spy thrillers set in Melbourne and Brisbane: Double Edged and Expendable!
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